I believe it is important to demystify sexual and gender stigmas, not only the ones related to who you love or who you are but also the ones related to the ways you choose to express that identity and sexuality.
"if you are a feminist you shouldn't enjoy being submisse in bed", "it is not a healthy relationship if you enjoy violence while having sex"", "you shouldnt be with so many sexual partners",etc.
I have heard this sort of stamentents in allegedly "safe" environments: feminist rallys, group of non cis/binary friends at partys: basically from people that should know better what shaming and judging others implies.
i can only wonder what it must feel to be a young developing person and hear someone you admire, or an influencer or your friends make you doubt how normal of healthy what you enjoy and makes you happy is.
I believe we are doing a great job accepting the light in diversity, but we also have to accept the darkness.
...and we have to realize it is not dark at all.
