Part of Collection "Stop Being Sad" / experience of my depressive episode
Don’t Worry. I used to hear this phrase too often during my depression. All attempts to cheer me up by this phrase were worthless. Also “Don’t be sad!”, “Cmon, cheer up!”, “Oh, just relax” — don’t work in general. I know that people told it to me for a good reason, but there were no any option button that can switch you into the normal mode. I can hardly explain that feeling when you want to relax, but you can’t, when you want to stop being nervous, although you have no idea how to do it. The problem was that I was blaming myself for no reason, I couldn't get whether my anxiety was relevant or not, I was continually trying to avoid those feelings, trying to escape. I needed someone who could tell me that my feelings are real. Such phrases made me think that my feelings cost nothing and they annoyed me even more. I managed perfectly with devaluing my own feelings those days.